Fountain Gardens, City Centre – I believe that as the slaves of God, we are not given the right to proclaim a person’s state in the eyes of God nor determine whether he/she goes to heaven or shall be thrown into hellfire for their demeanours.
In the frame of our limited minds, we may think that such and such a person may have done something wrong and assume Allah will punish the being in this life or the other with the thought of what goes around comes around. The truth is that it is up to God to Decide, for Allah is He Who Heareth and Knoweth (all things).
Just because that anyone who does not conform to our interests, expectations or norms, one may be inclined to wish them unwell and of calamity as they are deemed to deserve. Some may even take law into their own hands by inflicting pain or humiliation to their antagonists for the sake of redemption. Little do they know that such actions would only further aggravate the breaking points of ukhuwwah.
When the mind loses ground due to anger and the self-ego rejects injustice outright, one may resort to the means mentioned above. It is an inevitable human weakness for a person to overstep the red lines of humility in such situations.
However, always remember to recite Istighfar and seek forgiveness from Allah. Better still if one chooses to perform ablution to temporarily soothe the fiery heart and soul but what happens when resentment overpowers one’s sanity?
Before adopting the its-all-about-me role & passing judgements upon receiving maltreatments and injustice from others, we should bear a few things in mind;
1. When we say a prayer (du’a) for others indirectly it blesses the self. However, what does it mean actually when one hopes for pain, suffering and humiliation or punishment from Allah upon those who mistreated him/her?
2. Inflicting pain and humiliation in vengeance only further aggravates our relationship with others. It is worse when in the end of the day it humiliates the self instead.
3. Before we seek for justice from others, let us ask ourselves whether have we been just to God himself and the rest of His creations (Hablum minallah wa hablum minannaas) all these while?
4. There is always a hikmah (wisdom) behind every misfortune that befalls upon us.
5. The tougher the test that is given by God, the higher our position is in the eyes of God (maqaam) included that it is passed through with Sabr (Patience), Tawaadhu’ (Humility) and in remembrance of the Almighty.
How to handle misdemeanours
The most significant step is to cease our angers by forgiving others and letting go of the past. A person who is unable to let go of the past would find it difficult to move on and progress. Some may rise from their fall but if they build themselves with intent of revenge such as to ensure the fall of their enemies, definitely their ‘amal (actions) have strayed from their objectives as the Vicegerents of God. Their niyyah (intentions) is not lillahi Ta’ala but for materiality. Such route of progress and success due to vengeance can never be sustained for long.
Redhaa is the key to forgiveness.
As toddlers, we would have our parents to teach us the basic things in life. We would then have our teachers and lecturers to educate us on the academic and practical domains of survival.
Rarely one realises that there is the unseen murabbi (teacher) that has been by our side teaching and guiding us all the way till this moment. Allah has Blessed us with lessons through tests of hardships, suffering, joy and success.
If one ponders deeply, he/she will find the benefits of each tragedy or occurrences which has been destined for them. Reality identified, they may avoid repetition, promise to change themselves for the better and choose to be closer to God. Subsequently, one may fortify a stronger heart, mind and soul.
When we say a prayer (du’a) for others indirectly it blesses the self. A du’a complements our state of forgiveness to others. It dilutes enmity. It shall breed the feeling of love and ehsaan towards others.
Even though it is difficult for one achieve this majestic phase of empathy, it may commensurate with the belief in Allah. Then try to consider the condition of the alleged maltreators. Despite of the appalling perception that we have towards them, we do not know the souls beneath nor what have they gone through. Probably there is a hidden cause to their actions. Remember the story of Prophet Khidhir A.S & Prophet Musa A.S ?
So pray and keep on praying that may Allah Forgive, Bless and Give them the guidance in this world. Including ourselves. May this Ramadhaan al-Kareem be a Blessed month of forgiveness for all of us. Amin ya rabbal ‘aalamiin.